But why …?


One only has to observe the world we live in to see that sin has become synonymous with words like “courage”, “self-love”, “independence” and “doing you”. We hear phrases like “YOLO”* and “live a little”. So many ideas are presented as justification for calling evil good and good evil.

When one takes a particular stand and most people around seem to stand against it, it becomes even more difficult and more important to know which position is right. It is not enough to be satisfied with knowing what the correct stance is. We need to understand the source of that stance, the reason behind it, the consequences of deviating from it. We do this for ourselves and for those who question the way we live.

The questions will come, they always do. Each time one does not conform to the norm, someone will be wanting to know “why”. “Why do you take church so seriously?” “Why won’t you join us for a drink and smoke?” “Why do you always step away just when the gossip gets juicy, don’t you want to know whatsup?” “Why do you dress the way you do?” “Dude, she just insulted you, why don’t you tell her off?” They’ll want to know.

For a very long time, my response to most “why” questions was “it’s personal” or “that’s just what I feel comfortable with, you do you and I do me, DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM??” I was always so defensive. I’m coming to realise more each day that I acted that way because I hadn’t taken time to internalise my faith. I didn’t fully understand why certain things were right and others were wrong. I knew what God’s expectations were but I could not explain them because I had not taken the time to know God and study His Word. I didn’t bother to read my Bible with the mind of seeing things through God’s eyes. All I saw was “thou shall” and “thou shall not”. And so I was never ready to give a reasoned, seasoned answer when asked about my lifestyle, faith and values.

I know for a fact that I still have a lot of work to do in this department. But as I study the Word more and build relationships with other believers, I am increasingly able to answer people who ask me about my misfit status. 🙂 I now understand that the Bible is the backing for all I am called to and why I was called. It contains the answer to every “but why …?” It’s no wonder that we are told to mediate on the Word “day and night”.

I’d love to hear your experience on this; what is the most difficult “but why …?” question you have been faced with? How do you make sure that you are always ready to give an answer to everyone who wants to know the reason for your hope as a believer? Do leave a comment below!

mantra for the week! :-)

mantra for the week! 🙂

*YOLO – You Only Live Once


6 thoughts on “But why …?

  1. Jade says:

    My most frequent has to do with appearance. Some people want to know why I dress the way I do and my response is that the Bible teaches moderation and decency. As a believer in the Lord Jesus,I am obliged to live by God’s standard. I can’t profess faith and live contrary. I must be who I claim to be. The goal is the upward call in Christ.

    • The graced misfit says:

      Appearance has become even more of a controversial issue of late, it seems the lines are getting blurrier by the day. Your answer is on point and to the point as usual.
      Thanks for always making it a point to read AND comment. You are the best-est.

  2. The graced misfit says:

    Hi Beautiful child! (Yeah, I saw the intro on your blog). 🙂
    Thanks for stopping by and for the kind compliment, it means a lot to me.
    You’re spot on. Personal conviction is key.
    I need to read those articles. Especially that second one. 🙂 I’ll check them out.

    PS: Turns out your comments landed in the spam folder for some reason. I hope I’ve fixed whatever the problem was though.

  3. Lenna says:

    This blog post has been a true blessing to me. I always find myself in situations where i am asked about my faith and why i do things differently, each and everytime i denounce Christ with the answers i give so as to not ‘offend’ the person i am speaking to.
    The other day i was having a conversation with a colleague at work and after hitting me with all the ‘whys?’ you can possibly think of, he asked ‘how religious i am on a scale of 1-10’. The answer i gave was ‘a 5’ and at that moment Matthew 10:33 (“But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven”) and Revelation 3:16 (“So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of My mouth”) came to mind. These verses came as a rebuke and warning to say that i was not on the right path, because not only had i denied Christ but had also rejected Him just so i could temporarily fit in.
    I am however thankful for that experience because it was through it that God was able to mold me, after all, He disciplines those He loves, Proverbs 3:11-12 (“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in”).
    Thank you so much for this absolutely beautiful post 🙂

    • The graced misfit says:

      Whoop whoop..:-) Good to see you here, love.
      Yes, it’s an on-going struggle for me too – the fear of being tagged ‘judgemental’. But I’m learning to make use of the grace God has provided for us to be bold and unapologetic about our faith.
      People love that ‘how religious are you?’ question hey! I always maintain that Christianity transcends religion, its a lifestyle. I’m so glad you are learning through these experiences. The point is not to beat yourself up over what should have been said but to repent and move on, lesson in mind.
      Keep saturating your mind with the Word and watch it act as a guide for you in future moments.
      Thanks for sharing. I love you plenty.

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